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August 25, 2016

Emotions or What's Love Got To Do With It?

I love reality television and watch it because I enjoy seeing how normal people interact in front of a camera. Some people think it’s scripted - I don’t. But I do believe that all reality TV producers want people on there show that will create drama. I’m amazed at what people reveal about themselves in front of a camera. Just like in fictionyou can’t make this stuff up.

 An example - on Bachelor in Paradise - we have Ashley the cryer. (She promised that this season she would limit her crying to three times. She cried that much in the first hour over a man she loves, but he just wants to be friends. Move on Ashley!) We had Chad, who I can say went home the first night for reasons that are better left unsaid. On Couples Therapy… I see divorce in most of the couple's future. On Millionaire Matchmaker they had a man who had over three hundred plastic surgeries trying to make himself attractive. Scary!

So last week we were watching Millionaire Matchmaker. She had a woman on who didn’t show emotion. She had her own company and thought if she showed her emotions, then she appeared weak. Instead, she appeared cold. She refused to be vulnerable with anyone. 

Which got me to thinking. Why as women are we perceived to be weak when we show our emotions? Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. We’re human.

When I was a kid, my grandmother would cry over the least little thing. It would embarrass me and whenever there was a family function, the tears flowed. Especially, if her sisters were there as they could stir up more stuff than a hurricane hitting the coast. Yet, I’ve been known to shed a tear over a commercial, a traumatic event, my loved ones or even anger. And no, I don’t think I’m weak. Personally, I think I’m living in the moment. If it calls for tears, then that doesn’t mean I’m fragile, it means I have empathy or I’m experiencing pain or someone has moved me. It makes me a human being.

Who doesn’t love a book that makes you feel all of your emotions? My favorite stories are usually one where I laughed out loud and shed a tear. MAKE ME FEEL. It’s not a bad thing. Some of us are very uncomfortable with feelings, emotions, but frankly, I think it’s what life is about. We’re involved. We’re in the moment.

Love is the greatest emotion on earth. 

Sometimes we’re sad, sometimes we’re happy and sometimes we want to escape from our own realities into a world where you know there will be a happy ending. Where characters express their emotions and are not perceived as weak - but rather strong. 

How did Millionaire Matchmaker help this woman? She didn’t. The woman went on two dates, found these very nice men lacking and refused to acknowledge, she had a problem. She walked off the show. Unable to be vulnerable, I fear this woman will face a life alone. I actually felt sad for her. 

So what do you think? Are emotions a bad thing?  Do you like reality TV? Can’t wait for Survivor…

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August 16, 2016

What did I learn from a show about spies? @sloanebcollins #amwriting #amreading #plottingprincesses

What lesson did I learn from a spy show?

My husband & I started watching a 6 part spy series the other day, "The Night Manager" on AMC. It's good, and we like it, but we were about 40 minutes in to the first episode when something happened, and he said "Finally. Now the story is moving along."

I need to post that on my laptop so I always remember to keep the action going in the books I write. 

I don't have a lot of time to read, so it's usually on the train to/from work, or a few minutes on my lunch break. There are some books I've read lately that it's ok to read snatches here and there. I can pick it back up and continue on. A short book may take several days to finish. Last week I read "Falling Into Bed with a Duke" by Lorraine Heath. I read 387 pages in less than 2 days. It was so awesome and compelling I had a hard time putting it down, so I read every minute I could (and almost missed my stop twice!). 

That's how I want to write. To keep the action up so readers don't want to set my book down, they want to see how it turns out. And to fall in love with my characters. (Yes, I fell hard for Lorraine's duke...and the woman he wanted to be with desperately!)

Back to that mini-series we started watching.

August 2, 2016

Michelle Miles: I Need a Netflix Intervention

Now that Once Upon A Time, Person of Interest, Game of Thrones and Outlander are all over for the season (or in the case of POI forever...*cry*), I find myself binge watching Netflix like I binge eat Blue Bell chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.

I've been on a quest to watch every Star Trek: The Next Generation episode since I missed the last three seasons back when the show was on (it premiered in 1987 if that gives you a frame of reference). Husband was out of town for the weekend which meant there was a lot of STTNG playing on the TV. I spent my Friday night eating tacos, watch Star Trek and playing MajorMUD (a text based game similar to D&D and another post for another day) with my brother and sister-in-law firmly cementing my evening in the 1990s. Good times. Only I didn't have a great glass of cabernet in the 90s.

I made it through season 6 and started the last season on Sunday. I find myself both excited and a little sad that the show will be ending soon only because that means I will have finally seen all 176 episodes. I find the episodes that deal with Data and/or the Borg to be some of my favorite. Season 6 has been amazing. Of course yes I know I can always watch them again but there's something magical about seeing the episodes for the first time and not knowing how it's going to end.

July 28, 2016

Craftmaster - Finding old stuff in the parent's home #SOS #RB4U #MFRWorg #amcrafting

While cleaning out my parents’ garage with family, a brother in law unearthed a picture wrapped in white paper, rectanglular in shape. Passed to me to determine if giveaway or have siblings look at, I folded back the paper and squealed. My sisters came running. We found the crushed rock and gravel picture my mom had made.

This picture hung above the china cabinet in the dining room for many, many years. Then Mom replaced it with a homey scene. I guess I didn’t notice it was gone for a long while and when I did, thought she’d donated it (along with the horse head lamps).

Here’s what we found: 

July 26, 2016

Cowboys Are Better Than Navy SEALS

Last month at the Lori Foster Readers and Authors Get Together, Sharon Hamilton and I wrangled over whether or not Cowboys or SEALS are better. Even a very cute young man took my side and told Sharon that Cowboys were better than SEALS. Then two weeks later I see Sharon had written a blog at Happy Ever After Blog listing the top 10 reasons why a Navy SEAL is better than a cowboy. 

She’s thrown down the gauntlet and the game is onso just for fun, here are my 10 reasons why a Cowboy is better than a Navy SEAL:

10) Cowboys smell of leather and horse and a manly scent that makes you go awwwwSeals they’re all wet.

July 21, 2016

Saving Sarah Release - by Kathy Ivan


I wanted to share with the Plotting Princess readers that I have a new release that just went live. I was asked by Susan Stoker to participate in her Special Forces: Operation Alpha Kindle World launch. When somebody as hugely popular as Susan personally asked me to write a romantic suspense with paranormal elements -- well, I wasn't about to say no.  J
Saving Sarah is the result and I absolutely love this book. It has a curvy, spunky heroine and a sexy ex-SEAL hero!

Here's the blurb:

July 19, 2016

@sloanebcollins RWA is like Christmas in July #PlottingPrincesses #rwa16 #MFRWorg #ChristmasinJuly #amwriting

We’ve all heard of Christmas in July.  Several channels are running holiday movies, some shows have craft and cooking segments showing you how to make holiday foods and gifts.  For me, it really is Christmas in July, my favorite time of the year for another reason: the annual Romance Writers of America conference.

I’ve just returned from this year’s conference in San Diego, and I got so many presents!  Here’s my top 10 list of “gifts”: