This month my father will celebrate his 83rd birthday. It’s hard to believe that’s he’s that age and I still remember him as a young man working hard to earn a living for his family. My mother is 78 and she still gets around really well, but my father is starting to struggle.
Aging is just part of life’s journey and I know that eventually we all die, but until the last five years I never realized how difficult the journey could be. Unfortunately, I fear that I haven’t seen the worst yet and know that eventually there will be a time when my family members will be gone.
In the last five years, we’ve lost my husband’s mother, my grandmother, my aunt and an uncle. And I know that this is just the beginning. All my family is aging and for that matter, so am I.
Before my mother-in-law died at the age of 88, she told me she was ready to go because all of her friends had passed on. She said you reach a time when you no longer have funerals to attend and you’re the only one left. That statement has stayed with me and I know that there could come a day when that will be the case with me.
At first this really bothered me, but the logical part of me says that this is just part of life. This journey we call everyday living will someday come to an end. The optimistic side of me says that’s why we’re to love each other and enjoy our time together. Live each day to the fullest.
Right now my father is in a nursing home and I have to say that while it may seem depressing at first, I have had many a laugh there. The residents are upbeat and happy and well, bless their hearts some of them have returned to their youth and are like children without a care in the world.
In the fiction world, we seldom see older women romances, which is a darn shame since the population is aging. I have one book that is about an older heroine – The Christmas Bride and I have another one that I've never published that has an older heroine that I hope to have out next year.
Aging is part of life. And there is no stopping the clock. At this point in my life I don’t want to be seen as old, but rather a mature woman who still acts young at heart. But there will come a day when I’m an old woman who wrote romances for a living and had a darn good time doing it. Young people will whisper and say…”Do you think she did that stuff she wrote about?”
I plan on smiling and not saying a word. Let them wonder.
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