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June 4, 2013

Golden Wedding Anniversaries

This is the month of brides, and while we celebrate new beginnings, it’s also great to celebrate couples who have been together for many years. My aunt and uncle will celebrate their fiftieth wedding anniversary on June 15th, and all the family is gathering to honor them on this very special occasion.

I’ve known four couples to make it to their fiftieth wedding anniversary. Both sets of grandparents, my parents and now my aunt and uncle. So I asked my uncle to tell me why he thought that their marriage had lasted when others have not. He gave me such a wonderful detailed description that I don’t have the room to put everything he said here. 

His first recommendation is that young people wait and not be in a hurry to marry, but instead be in love, not lust.  Look for a partner who is honest, trustworthy and is committed to the relationship. Look at their parents to see what kind of example they are setting and what kind of home they have established for their children. These characteristics will be passed down to any children the two of you have, so be certain their son or daughter is right for you.  Once you’re certain, this is the right person, then commit 100% to making the love of your life happy.  

Always put your mate first and remember what they want. You’re on this journey of life together, and the decisions you make as an individual will affect your partner. Their needs should be put before your own.

My aunt is his best-friend. They have always shared and talked about everything and prefer to spend time with each other rather than anyone else. He went on and on about what a fabulous wife my aunt is and how she established a loving home for their children and was a great example to them and a wonderful help mate.  He said, “Donnette has been a great wife because she always puts me first and supported me in whatever decisions that we have made.”

As I read his email, he brought tears to my eyes, when he said this about my aunt, “She has made me happy by loving me and being affectionate at the right times, a good listener when needed, a partner when necessary and a partner in the marriage and home. She has been right beside me holding my hand in the good times and in the bad times. She has been an extension of who I am. I have been the most blessed person on the earth and God brought the most wonderful person into my life to share it with me and made me a much better person.”

The most important reason they have been together for fifty years is that they always kept God in their marriage. They have attended church and been involved in church wherever they lived.

Yes, God has played a big part in their relationship, but there is another line in his email that said a lot about my uncle as a husband. He says, “I don't know whether I have been a good husband or not, but I know that I have committed myself to my family, which is my wife, children and parents. A good husband has lots of characteristics such as Godliness, love, honesty, faithfulness, and a good provider.”

Uncle Stan, I’m certain that if I asked my aunt, she’d say you’ve been an excellent husband. Thanks for the both of you being such a great example of love and marriage and sharing with us today. May you have many more wonderful years together.

Sylvia McDaniel likes to write about brides and happily ever afters.  Check out her latest release, The Wanted Bride on Amazon or Barnes and Noble


Bantering of a Beautiful Mind said...


Kathy Ivan said...

Sylvia, what a wonderful and glowing tribute to your uncle and aunt! Fifty years together is an amazing accomplishment when the world around us seems to be in a "disposable" age where love and marriage are concerned.

My grandparents were married over 50 years, too, and were a wonderful example of love and commitment.

Sylvia said...

Hi Kim,
Thanks for stopping by.

Sylvia said...

Hi Kathy,
You know I left out my great-grandparents. They were married for over 50 years. Fifty years is an amazing accomplishment.

Vicki Batman, sassy writer said...

OMG, Sylvia! What a lovely tribute. Fifty is so amazing. And the advice to be in love, not lust is spot on.

Sylvia said...

Hey Ms. Batman,
They are a beautiful couple.


Phyllis said...

Wonderful account of your family. My grandparents made it to their 50th, as well as, my in-laws. Unfortunately illness cut my parents down to 46 years.

Thank you for sharing.

Karilyn Bentley said...

That's so sweet! Happy Anniversary to your aunt and uncle! It's an amazing accomplishment. My grandparents made it to 67 years. Pretty amazing.

chris k said...

on cruises there's often a moment when they ask who has been married the longest- some wonderful stories.

I can't imagine still being married to my husband for another few decades - but I suppose the second 25 are easier than the first! lol.

Sylvia said...

Hi Phyllis,
My grandparents made it to their 50th as well.

Sylvia said...

Hi Karilyn,
Wow 67 years! I can't even imagine.


Sylvia said...

Hi Chris,
Decades are only twenty years. Hopefully you'll both be around celebrating your 50th someday.

Alisha said...

Happy Anniversary to your aunt and uncle, Sylvia!!! What a wonderful tribute!! My parents 50th anniversary was yesterday, June 4th!! We're having a big party this Saturday with tons of friends and family, celebrating at El Fenix! I'm sure we'll close the place! My parents are like your aunt and uncle. They did everything together and are best friends! And God is an important part of their marriage too! I loved everything your uncle said! So sweet! And I love the sweet photo!

Unknown said...

Very sweet tribute, Sylvia. I've only made 20 years in my marriage, and am proud of that, but both my parents and my in-laws have made 50. Such a great accomplishment and such a blessing.

Cheers, EE

Kathleen Baldwin said...

What a sweet post Sylvia! Hugs

Dawn said...

Thank you for doing this for Donnette and Stanley. I knew them before they married and we have remained long distance friends over the years. She gave me her chili recipe and I still use it.

Dawn Moorehead Street